Wouldn’t it be easy if we could just read guys minds? Well, instead of looking for a genie in a bottle just look right here because I am going to give you a couple body language tips that can help you decode what he is really saying…even if he isn’t. Below are a couple common questions you may have wondered, and how to figure out the answer.

1) Is he really happy?

Wanna know if he is genuinely having a good time? Check out the apples of his cheeks. If his cheeks are really lifted when he smiles, then he is truly happy. Another thing to look at is his eyes. The eyes are usually a dead give away if someone is fake smiling.

2) Is he really listening to what I say?

Can’t tell if what you are saying is really getting through. See if he is stroking or touching his face. It shows he is being thoughtful.

3) Does he act like his real self around me?

Laughing is the key to decoding this question. A guy who laughs easily shows how relaxed he is with you. He can let his guard down because he is so comfortable with you.

4) Is he in this relationship for the long run?

His shoulders can give you the answer to this question. When he slouches his shoulders around you, it doesn’t just indicate his attraction for you, but that he is also emotionally attached and serious about this relationship. This little shoulder roll shows that he really feels the connection.

5) Is he speaking the truth?

See if he is sitting on his hands when speaking to you. If he is, it means he is trying to control what is coming out of his mouth. Not only does he want not want to screw up, but he also wants to say the right thing. He just wants to please you. If his hands are up and over his mouth however, he might be lying, so watch out.

6) Is he mad and just not telling me?

Two places to look for this one. The first is his hands. Are they balled into fists? That shows that his temper is rising, as men are hardwired to prepare to fight when angry. Second, look at the jaw. If it is rigid and flexed, he is pretty angry on the inside.

Want some more tips? Well, the smarty pants at Cosmopolitan Magazine have a whole page, separated into different categories, that help you decode a mans body language (and helped me create this post!). Check it out and then test them!


Hayley is a junior at the University of Washington, studying communications, women's studies, and dance. She is co-captain of the UW Husky Dance Team and is active in the Miss America Organization. Hayley loves learning about the fashion industry and her and her mother's shopping motto is "if it fits us both, it's half the price!"
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