Have you ever found yourself getting upset at someone for not being the person whom you wanted him or her to be? It’s easy to blame the other person in this situation, but in reality, you’re the only one at fault. This has happened to me with more than one person, so I’ve come up with a few pointers to help steer others and myself into the right direction with dating.
1) Lower your Standards
Everyone has their “dream guy,” but let’s be honest, the chances of finding someone who fits evry bit of your criteria are very slim, so it’s time to
get a reality check lower your standards. Instead of searching for that tall, dark, handsome, smart, funny, and down-to-earth man (yes, I’m guilty of that), try looking for someone who is simple and genuine. I’ve recently realized that physical appearance will only get you so far. It’s important to find someone who shares the same interests and morals as you do. You can always work on the facial hair or toned body later on down the road!
2) Don’t Play the Guessing Game
It’s hard to not get frustrated when something doesn’t go as planned. A helpful hint to prevent this from happening is to be open and honest. Remember: Men are not mind readers, although sometimes we may think they are. They expect us to be up front with them, so there’s not use in wasting our time with trying to beat around the bush. Save you and your man the misery of playing the guessing game by telling him what you want.
3) Look Outside the Box
Just because you’re comfortable around a certain person doesn’t mean you have to settle for him. Men are like jeans. You have to try them on before you buy them, so it’s important to give yourself the opportunity to date different types of people. This will help you in deciding what you like and most importantly, what you don’t like in a person. Oftentimes, somebody sounds great on paper, but they turn out to be the exact opposite of what you were looking for. Do yourself a favor and look outside the box!
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